®Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT · Buddhist Chaplain · They/Them
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On neurodivergence, family estrangement, the intersection of identity and mental health, and the questions that don't resolve cleanly — by a queer, neurodivergent LMFT.
6 posts in Asexuality
Compulsory Sexuality: The Assumption That Makes Asexuality Look Like a Problem
Asexuality is not intrinsically distressing. It becomes distressing inside a system that treats sexual desire as universal, healthy, and obligatory — and treats its absence as evidence of damage.
Ace in the Polycule: Non-Monogamy That Isn't Built on Allosexual Assumptions
Most writing on ethical non-monogamy quietly assumes everyone involved wants sex. For mixed ace/allo partnerships, opening up can be a genuine structural solution or a slow coercion — and the difference is visible early.
Is My Asexuality Trauma? Why the Question Is Wrong in Both Directions
The most common question asexual clients bring to therapy, and the one where clinicians fail in two opposite directions — pathologizing an orientation, or refusing to look at a trauma response because looking feels unaffirming.
Autistic and Asexual: When Your Orientation Gets Filed as a Symptom
Autistic people are overrepresented on the asexual spectrum. Too often that overlap is read as evidence that the asexuality isn't real — a symptom of autism rather than an orientation. The logic behind that reading does not hold.
Four Ways to Not Want Sex: Asexuality, Low Desire, Medication, and Aversion
Asexuality, hypoactive desire, medication-induced dysfunction, and trauma-related aversion all present as not wanting sex. They are four different formulations with four different implications, and the distress criterion does most of the work.
Asexuality Isn''t the Absence of Love — It''s a Different Map of Attraction
A therapist unpacks the asexual spectrum — asexual, demisexual, gray-A, aromantic, panromantic — and why sex and romance were never one dial.
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