®Mx. Love C. Dialogos, LMFT · Buddhist Chaplain · They/Them
Clinical Writing
On neurodivergence, family estrangement, the intersection of identity and mental health, and the questions that don't resolve cleanly — by a queer, neurodivergent LMFT.
48 posts
DARVO: Why Abusers Accuse Their Victims of Lying
DARVO — Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender — explains why abusers so often accuse their victims of false accusations, and why false reports are rarer than assumed.
Is This Assault? Understanding Consent Violations in Kink (Quick Read)
A fast-reference breakdown of when a kink encounter crosses into assault — seven clear patterns, four common myths, and what to do if you think it may have happened to you.
Is This Assault? Understanding Consent Violations in Kink
One of the hardest questions a person can sit with: was what happened to me actually assault, or am I overreacting to something that was technically consensual? You deserve a clear answer — not a vague one.
BDSM vs. Abuse: How to Tell the Difference (Quick Read)
A fast-reference breakdown of the distinction between consensual kink and intimate partner abuse — five red flags, where the two get confused, and a gut-check list.
The Power and Control Wheel, Without the Gendered Assumptions (Quick Read)
A fast-reference breakdown of the gender-neutral Power and Control Wheel — all nine spokes, what they look like in LGBTQ+ and kink relationships, and how to use the wheel for self-assessment.
BDSM vs. Abuse: How to Tell the Difference
A kink-affirming therapist breaks down the real difference between consensual power exchange and intimate partner abuse — with warning signs, where the two get confused, and a gut-check list worth sitting with.
The Power and Control Wheel, Without the Gendered Assumptions
The original Power and Control Wheel was built around a gendered template that left real gaps for LGBTQ+, kink, and queer relationships. This version strips that assumption out and goes spoke by spoke through what coercive control actually looks like — including inside negotiated power exchange dynamics.
Fantasy Pushing: When "Asking" Becomes Pressure (Quick Read)
A fast-reference breakdown of fantasy pushing — what it looks like, why it works, and how to respond to it directly.
Polyamory Through a Clinical Lens (Quick Read)
A fast-reference summary of polyamory structures, what brings poly clients to therapy, and what affirming clinical practice actually requires.
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